[Devora]

Wow! That's a wonderfully small daycare and incredible adult:child ratio. I'm surprised with it being so small that they haven't been able to manage P's behavior better. I would think there would be enough supervision that they could spot when something's about to happen and be proactive. (I'm thinking of my own son who was easily overstimulated the first few months in a group care setting. His teacher was great at spotting when he started to go on overload and gently directing him to be aware of his body and calm himself down. He also had problems figuring out how to initiate play with the other kids -- there the problem was actually that he was far more verbal than most of them and he didn't know how to react to their limited articulations of whether or not they wanted to play. Again, the teacher was great about seeing when he was about to approach another child and coaching him through that process.)

Given your concerns about her behavior (and the sudden return of it that coincides with being back with P), I can see why you would think of moving to another setting when there's a good one available. Are you just looking for reassurance about that move being reasonable instead of making her "learn about getting along"? If so, then I think I would be doing what you're doing (given my earlier question about when is it reasonable to ask a child to learn that). Although, you might wait a couple more weeks and see if it's the classroom transition (and not just being back with P) that's prompting the behaviors. She could be a little discombobulated by having moved rooms... or it could be the combination of her and P.