Hi everyone!
DD just turned 3 and is normally a beautiful, smart, caring, sweet child. My problem stems from her class at daycare. There is a little boy - I'll call him "P" who is a terror, to say the least. His mother is a colleague of mine (our daycare is run by our district) and although we're friendly, we're certainly not "friends". Last school year, when DD was in her previous room, she & P butted heads constantly and it got to the point where she would wake up in the middle of the night and scream "NO P...!" When that happened, I spoke with her teachers who assured me that even though P was a handful, DD gave as good as she got. The Director also confirmed this and I have NO illusions about my daughter being the perfect child. She's definitely "spirited" and I kind of let it go because he was turning 3 soon. Once P "moved up" to the next room, her behavior changed significantly. She stopped picking on her brother at home and we settled into a nice, calm routine with a few blips along the way. I should mention that she NEVER had any run-ins at daycare with anyone other than P...
Fast forward to September of this year. She's still in her room & P's in the 3-4 year old room. Everything was BEAUTIFUL -- always had "GREAT" days on her daily report and with a few exceptions, terrific at home as well. November approached and she "moved up" and is with P again. Although her new teachers assure me that she is an angel in school and doesn't bother with P, she's started to wake up & talk about P again! Nothing ever relates to her - it's "He hit so & so, he threw this/that, he pushed so & so, etc" I know his parents are at their wits' end. The daycare isn't doing anything that I've observed to help the behavior other than telling the parents daily on his report, which usually results in his mother screaming at him in front of everyone.
So...we were looking for and found a great preK for DD to attend in the fall as a 4 year old and they're also accepting 3 year olds that they consider ready (it's a private school) as well. When we went for a tour and interview, they said they would accept her anytime we were ready to send her, which proves that her daycare is doing their job to get her ready! She'll hopefully be at this school through the 5th grade.
I know I'm being hyper-sensitive about the situation as there will probably always be a child with a bad attitude in her class and she needs to learn to deal with all types of people in the world. However, I don't like her waking up in the middle of the night and talking about him and what he did in class that day. It's kind of unnerving, you know?
My question is this: WHAT WOULD YOU DO??
TIA for advice!!!