[lyngan]

I can identify with the feeling of not being excited about a preganancy after adoption. I wanted to have a family 10 years ago. After a couple of tries of invitro, we happily moved on to adoption. Throughout that long process we became parents of a wonderful little boy who is almost 4 years old. I have totally come to terms with being infertile, until all of a sudden , I have learned that I'm not so infertile. I'm pregnant. I know I "should" be happy, although I was totally content with my life and now feel that this is somewhat "unwanted" at this stage in my life. I feel terrible, but I have no idea how to change my feelings. Does anyone have any suggestions for me, I just don't want either one of them to feel bad, ever, whether it is my "chosen" son who was adopted or the "oops" baby on the way. I don't even feel like I know who I am, I've developed such a thick skin to being infertile, I'm just so confused. It's also somewhat an identity crisis. Please help??