I agree that relatives need to have clearance too. We have had 2 live scans and both passed. Safety is important of course, but preference is suppose to be given EACH time the child is moved or placed.
In CA relatives are described as Grandparent, aunt,uncle, etc. you can go to the 5th degree. We are included in the relative description, thankfully
YOU are SO right in CPS being able to use the guidelines against us if they choose. That is where NEW legislation needs to come in.
There needs to be LAW where an approved relative cannot be challenged by a foster parent, NOT EVER! I believe in adoption by fp when there is no safe, willing, able relative. The law needs to be specific, CPS has too much power to bend rules and use the family codes as both a weapon and a sword. Unfortunately for Del Norte CPS and State Adoptions, they messed with the wrong relative.
My nephew HAS a HUGE family who loves him and wants him home. AND on my side is a LOT of proof and not just by me other agency workers are very aware and in possession of proof. I know that with time and a court hearing, it will all come out. BUT we want him yesterday in our home.
Sad that some people have the God complex and put their own agendas first.
In the thread starter's case, I just wanted to prepare her for a fight. The sooner the better, I WISH we had known that before, but CPS keeps their mouths shut until it is too late.
I get so angry with them and we have sacrificed a lot to be in this fight, but really, my nephew has been the real suffering party to their evil deeds.
We are back from soccer and off to in-laws for early Thanksgiving.
My prayers are with you. My only intent was to warn you not to let the system guide you, a young baby (child under 3) is fast tracked into adoption. SAD but very very true, ask about concurrent planning too. ARE they putting the child into a pre-adoptive home? I was NEVER told that one either. These families are TRYING to adopt (no problem there either just not OK when GOOD relatives are available) and they sought a lower risk, younger boy.
Sometimes I get very mad at our broken system, we point fingers at other governments and here we have baby thieves that can fight family!
In no way are adoptive parents USUALLY baby thieves, I respect what they are doing and trying to do. BUT a foster family that would fight a SAFE & willing relative is EVIL. I apologize for being blunt but in our case, the fp have sat in court, read my adoption home evaluation, etc. There is NO way they do not know that I am a safe place for him, besides we have dealt with some lying from our fp and SW.
OK off my soap box, I am sure all fp and adoptive parents are NOT evil and in no way am I implying that here
THANKS!