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I think what is driving me crazy, in part, is that the TPR already went through...Yet the mom keeps telling them things like "well, when you come back to live with me...." The kids have been in care almost 4 years now...and one of them was an infant when that happened....the only reason the 3 yr old even knows this woman is her mother, is that she has these visits...I dont see how this is POSSIBLY in the best interest of the children. But thats what they psych exam said, so thats what we do....
I am going to be getting a break for three days next week after the holiday. I feel bad...we are adoption minded and I feel like bringing my babies to a strangers house when they are obviously so vulnerable is maybe the last thing they need....but Im at the end of my rope....I just want to run away soemtimes and never look back.....
and if a three day vacation can keep me from doing that, than thats what we will be doing...
The 3 yr old and the eight year old have been nonstop with the crying and screaming. The six year old with the agression. I guess, I expected that acting out after a visit was to be expected, but untill we had that break of a few weeks, i dont think i realized to waht degree the visits were effecting them....and I must say that Im really suprised at the parallel behaviors with all our foster kids....
I read the post that thelowlanders made and am thinking about trying some things with the 3 year old for the potty situation. We didnt want to swich back to pullups from big kid pants,becasue we thought that would encourage the regression. but maybe we need to. Dont imagine she'll like going to preschool in those!!!
Im sorry to those of you who are anticipating horrible holidays. :-( it just stinks...We are trying to make things work, why do they spin so far out of control????
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