We missed Abraham's first birthday. His foster family had a party for him with a cake and friends of their 9yo daugher over. We missed his BD by almost a month. When we picked him up we asked his FM (who has fostered 36 children!) how many 1st birthdays she has had to celebrate with children she was fostering, and she said that Abraham was the first.
Things have slowed down so much that I think these FMs are spending more time than usual with these children. Maybe you'r little guy got a big celebration!
Also, like Barb and John, we also felt like Abe's foster family "deserved" to have his first birthday with him. We told them that they could have the first as long as we got the rest
Have a great trip, Tina, when you do go down there next month!