[waited2long]

I'm 39 years old and I still would not eat leftovers.

It seems like, at this point, you may want to try and forget the food battle and concentrate on other things.

Have food available for her, anytime she wants it, as others have suggested. Make sure every meal has at least one item you know she likes, as others also suggested. She should sit with the family for meals, but if she doesn't eat, ignore it, act like it's not important.

Be Switzerland, don't get involved. It's not giving in if you act as if it's not your war. This way, perhaps food will no longer be one of her control issues.

It sounds as if, slowly, that method is working for MomRaine...