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Even at such a young age - be sure to let her know it's ok and even healthy to grieve when you lose someone you love (as someone mentioned above). She has a lot to be sad about...so much has happened in her little life. I like your idea about happy memories, but I would try that at a calm time - a time when she can work harder to remember them. Maybe you could make a couple of projects - boxes. Make a happy box - with pictures of happy times, things she loves (rocks, feathers) - glue it, sequin it, color it...point out to her that papa can go in this box also...he made her happy.
Then make a sad box - let her decide what things she wants to put in there. Again, papa can be in her because she is sad that he is gone. Use the boxes to talk about how it is that a person can make you sad and happy...how you can choose to remember the good stuff and smile and then sometimes you remember the sad fact that he's gone and want to cry.
Try to get her to discuss the sad box at calmer times. We always make the boxes when something happens in our lives - deaths, moving...my oldest still has his from years ago. Over time they come out less and less - but they let the kiddo know it's ok to look at and cry when they need to...
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