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I would say no.
I wouldn't interupt the good things that are happening in her life just to get back in touch with someone who was not respecting boundaries in the past and was acting inappropriate (why would he give her presents but none of the other kids, sounds fishy to me).
People can remain in bad health for a very long time, they can be given 2 years to live and live 10. I wouldn't use his health as a reason to disrupt your childs life now. It may be harder for her to re-connect and then loose him all over again, if soemthing were to happen to him.
You may consider having him make her a "grandparents book" that shares his memories, family history, beliefs, feelings etc (they have some pre-made ones at most book stores that he can just fill out the answers to). Then ask him to include some pictures.
This will give him an opportunity to connect with his grandchild without directly affecting her life. It's would be something much more personal and long lasting that she could keep long after he was gone, or it could help her get to know him for a time they may re-connect in the future.
Whatever you do I would take it very slow.
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