[Suziebearhugs]

That's what I was thinking.

Three weeks is a very long time for any friend/relative to visit.

Especially given the nature of your relationship with her and your other child in the home.

How are you going to find time for yourselves as a family?

You might be setting yourselves up for some problems, especially boundary problems. Something you are already experiencing.

What are you planning to do for the 3 weeks she will be there? A single christmas present seems like nothing compared to the many times you will be out at the grocery store, gas station, out to dinner/lunch, out to the movies or some other form of outing or entertainment? How will you handle those situations? Who will pay? How will you set those boundaries? I'd really recommend sitting down with your husband and coming up with a plan.