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Do you know anybody who has significantly affected your life, somebody whom you worry about and wish you could change? Who? Write several paragraphs about that person and your relationship.
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Gosh, do I have to pick just one person? I can think of a few people in my family who fit this description, lol...
I guess I'll write about my mom. I was going to write about my dad, but then I realized he's dead, so I probably should forget about changing him, lol.
My mom had me when she was very young, 17 years old to be exact. We've had a complicated relationship right from the start. Typical of children who have gone thru emotional and/or physical abuse, I keep hoping for the day that she becomes Olivia Walton or Caroline Ingalls. I know in my head that this will never happen, but my heart keeps waiting for her to magically become a loving, warm, cuddly mother.
My mom uses shame and guilt to manipulate me into doing what she wants. It seems like no matter how many times I've told myself that she's just pushing my buttons, I end up giving in to her. I keep thinking that I just haven't found the secret in life yet on how to have a healthy relationship with her.
I love my mother, but there are so many things I would change in her if I could. The latest thing I've been worrying about is her decision to stop taking her medications for heart disease, hypertension, and diabetes. I've given up trying to talk to her about it...we just end up arguing.
I think I'm in the process of learning how to just accept my mom for who she is, without trying to change her. It's a hard thing to do, though.