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I wish I had trusted myself sooner and realized that what worked for other people's kids might not work for mine. My child's attachment was worse if he heard his native language, it just made him want to go back and not accept his new life. Time in a rocking chair and time reading books was good, though I ended up bruised often. For him, having been raised in orphanges school was comforting and it helped his language as well. However, you have to prepare the teachers for possible triangulation and attachment issues. I also had to learn not to take it personally when he pushed me away or was angry with me. I just kept reminding him that I loved him anyway and that I would love him no matter what. I have had him two years now and he is just now attaching. We are just now to the point where I think it would bother him to go live with someone else. He puts it as he is used to me. His grandfather died last week and he actually showed real emotion. He loved his grandfather and that was a good thing. He was able to attach to his dad and grandfather first. I was the last one he wanted to attach to.
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