[stephjoel99]

I would get as much health information as you could - on bmom, birthfather, grandparents, aunts, uncles, siblings, cousins. Think how many times we have to fill out family health information when we go to the doctor, and most of our children will not be able to provide that.

I would also want to know how many weeks pregnant she was when she had the baby - and what kind of delivery it was (csxn, vaginal delivery, etc.) Pediatricians are forever asking us that info and we don't know.

Also (if you don't know - or need more info) ask her if she's given any other children up in adoption. If so, who was the attorney and birth name/birth date of the child (in case you want to try and find them) - someone just suggested that to me in another thread.

I'm sure that list someone referenced above is full of good information - but I would also (if it were me) use this opportunity to really let her ask *you* questions. I can't imagine how painful/bittersweet this moment will be for the birthmother. And I would want to give her as much info as you feel comfortable with (pictures, his daily routine, your family, your house, stuff you have planned for his future) to make *her* feel comfortable that her child is well cared for and loved.

What an amazing opportunity you have. And I think you are so awesome to provide this woman such a gift - the uncertainty these women must face just handing their newborn over to an attorney and not knowing anything about where they'll end up - I simply cannot imagine it. Hopefully both of you will take away some peace. :-)