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poppy
the insenstive comments are awful. My sister is also adopted and her mother-in-law(a nasty woman to say the least) will always say about my sister's daughter "well she has my jeans" and "she takes after her grandmother" she will say these things infront of my parents...knowing that my sister is adopted and that my niece obvioulsy would not have my adopted parents jeans.
Also my mom has never been open to me finding my biological parents...we rarley talk about it, but when it does come up a guilt trip is usually her first reacton. I too am struggling to decide if I should pursue a reunion or at least gather info. on my biological mother...not really sure what to do, b/c I love my adopted mom so much that making her upset would not be worth it for me...at least I do not think it would, I also struggle w/ that when I am making a pro's and con's list.
I say you do what you feel is best, if your adopted mom loves you as much as I hope she does, she will support you..it is what I am leaning towards and what I am hoping for.
Good Luck
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