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I too have always been told that I look like my afamily. My biological family is Irish and Scottish and so is my afamily. I have always been told that I look just like my Dad and a couple of my siblings who are my parents biological children. I used to even fantasize that my Dad really was my biological father but that isn't the case. I honestly don't know if I would have been willing to adopt only because I have always had it in my mind that I was "second choice" and I would be afraid my child would feel the same way. I have always felt that if my parents were able to have children at the time they would not have adopted so, therefore, I was "Plan B" so to speak. My Mom always told me she would have been surprised if I had ever adopted because between my brother and I I was the one who always questioned my adoption and never seemed content, or whatever the word would be, with it. My brother never had questions, never talked about it and never seemed to have any qualms about his adoption and he and his wife did adopt a 4 year old son.
To SoniaRose - I understand how your husband's comment about "raising someone else's child" would hurt. I have heard comments like that all my life as I'm sure all of us have and they never cease to stab you right in the heart. People don't understand how comments like that affect an adoptee.
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