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Kind of a touchy subject, but after reading many posts here, I might be posting strictly for moral support. Our 3 year old is going to a nursery/pre-school. The one he is enrolled in is close to our house, religious affiliated, although I am not sure what denomination, and they will take 3 year olds that are not fully potty trained.
We are having problems with them not telling us how he is doing, but we get to hear reports to other parents at pick up time. Two weeks ago he told us that he hit someboy. My wife called the school and they initially denied anything happened, but then finally go to the point that he may have pushed a child in order to either move up in line or to get a toy.
Yesterday he came home and said that "Miss ------- had given his a treat, but that he didn't get any snack." He showed us that a "treat" was taps on his bottom. He also has stated that his "hose" hurts. He then motioned that his "hose" is his penis, after all he is only 3 so he can call it what he wants for now.
My wife is taking him to the pediatriacian today because we are scared to death that some major inappropriate behavior is going on at the day care.
Needless to say, he has been to the day care for the last time. At this point in time, since it is only the word of a 3 year old, do we get the police involved, let the state know, or just wait until the pediatrician checks him?
Both my self and my wife have said we will cause bodily harm to the people if anything has happened, so there is no need to think that we are not on top of this. I just needed to talk about this to people that are not involved. My wife and I get to upset to talk about this much together. Thanks for listening.