[lucyjoy]

The children I stayed home/kept home with me for the first 6 months or more bonded far better then those who went to school right away.

Spending time one to one all day-playing together, doing chores, cooking all would help

Limiting what is in the child's room in the beginning and adding as the child is ready. My children were overwhelmed and couldn't/didn't take care of their things if there were too many and tended to be more agitated. We kept just a few things in the room-one or two stuffed animals, 2 or 3 books and a couple hotwheels. Everything else was kept in a common play area like the living room or the outside playhouse.

The other big thing was meaning what I say. If I said their room had to be clean or no circus, then we went to a circus anyway-kid's felt like I was a liar. So, I didn't say things that I would not be okay following through on.

Congratulations and I hope you enjoy your new addition.