If you thought your opinion would be unpopular wait till someone reads mine...... This is a major pet peeve of mine.....
I hate political correctness... honestly, wording things differently do not make them any different. For example....... A person who is blind is blind, saying visually challenged doesn't make it any different.
When you are parents- that is what you are, period. We adopted to become parents, but that still makes us parents. We don't even
need to use the terms "adoptive parents" or "adoptive child" when describing ourselves.
Having a bio child or a pregnancy mentioned on an adoption forum is still part of being a parent. If you are adopting due to infertility, you really need to deal with the "pain" or "loss" before you proceed anyway, it should not "hurt" you to see others mention a pregnancy or bio child. If it does, poor you.
It is not the poster's intention to pain someone (at least I can not imagine it would ever be, since we are all desiring to become parents) Most of the time it is one parent rejoicing in joy over their chld or asking other parents for advice. Right?
If the goal is to never offend or pain someone, then DNA, Pink, pick-up trips should not be mentioned because there are so many in the process who can't have that yet.
I am sorry, I will probably be asked to kindly remove this, but honestly some people need to grow up and deal with it.
By the way, we adopted due to infertility. While in the process of fertility treatments, it was painful to see my friends pregnant, go to baby showers, etc..... but I would never wish them to keep quiet about their joy due to my selfishness and emptyness. God had something planned for us to become parents- Guatemala Adoption- it was a hard journey and probably just as painful as infertility, but it was my journey and not anyone's fault for me to blame or hold accountable for my "pain."
Please do not see me as insensitive to others, but like someone said earlier, what difference does it make to note it in the title- either way it is read that there is a bio child or pregnancy mentioned??