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When my child is in time in, she simply is glued to my side. If I'm folding laundry, she is too. If I'm reading a book, she is too. If I go get the mail, she does too. I just tell her that I can't fully trust her to make good decisions right now, and so I need to able to guide her so she needs to be close to me. Other times, when she has been mean to me, she has to do something for me (paint my toenails, give me a massage).
Sometimes, if I am not in the frame of mind to do time in without anger, I send her outside. I tell her to scream at the trees, that they don't ;mind. If she cusses at me, I often do this. The trees don't mind being cussed at. I'm usually too angry at that piont to effectively do time in.
Sometimes time in will consist of her sitting on my lap and us talking. It depends on the frame of mind she is in.
Lucy mentioned taking away the child's privilege to talk. I do that sometimes. I have my daughter put her hand over her mouth. Althouigh she is argumentative, this is one thing she won't argue about, I don't know why.
Time ins are tough because you are usually irritated with the child by the time it gets to that point. You have remove yourself emotionally and not take it personnally. Easier said than done.
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