Good for you. It isn't easy adopting an older child...it just isn't.
When you deal with attachment issues, especially when there are other children in the home, it can cause a great deal of friction...we've been there.
I remember someone posting on here one time "Fake it until you can make it". Those are words to live by. It is extremely difficult to bond with someone who might be seeking attention by being all sweet and sugar and screaming to the top of their lungs at other times.
Members of our own families didn't understand. In fact, one person in particular, plays right into our child's hands and all that does is sabotage everything we have been working towards.
We are in this almost 2 years...it does get better with lots of consistency and hard work.
Good luck, and you shouldn't feel guilty.
