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Old 11-19-2008, 10:53 AM
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PLEASE give your birth mother the respect of a private first contact (phone call, letter, email) asking her if she would like to be a mutual participant in the reunion and meet you at some point. Then you can mutually agree as to time, place, date, etc. Ambushing her with something that is so incredibly huge and emotional could be disastrous for both of you. Please, please do not go through with your current plan. Everyone deserves the respect to be given the chance to deal with this incredibly sensitive information in private, and to proceed at their own pace.

Congratulations on finding her. That's truly awesome.

Now, the frist act of love you can give her is a little sensitivity and respect. Reunions should be mutual, not forced or ambushed. That rarely works out well.

Do not ambush her with a group. Please. Contact her privately and go from there.
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