[Crissy011]

I just wanted to thank everyone who told me that it was okay to feel overwhelmed & to miss things the "way they were" before the placement took place. Really, I think that I just needed to hear that feeling this way at times doesn't necessarily mean that I'm not cut out for this. My husband & I are not ready to give up just yet. We are going to keep trying each day. Today, I'm feeling positive about things. Tomorrow - who knows! I just have to take it day by day. Also, I have to say to all those who critized me, I do not expect this child to be perfect. I did not say to him "You need to follow the rules or you're leaving." What I posted was that he was aware that in order to live in our house, rules need to be followed. However, it was said to him as "these are the family rules that we all follow & you are part of our family & are expected to follow them." No one asked how it was explained to him & many attacked me for threatening him with being "kicked out" which was not the case at all. Anyway, thank you to the wonderful people that actually tried to help. Because of you, I will continue to come here for support & advice. To the people that were negative and tried to make me feel like I was some sort of evil person, I can't imagine that you are perfect. Adoption/Fostering is not easy & I think that if you can't be supportive, perhaps you shouldn't say anything at all. I'm all for honesty, but it is possible to be honest without putting someone down and trying to make them feel bad.