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boy every family is different. Biodaughter was 10 when H was born - domestic adoption. That big old age gap worked well, no sibling rivalry - then agian I wonder if they'll ever have a close sibling relationship because of the age difference. Now H is nearly 4 and we just brought in a fosterdaughter who is nearly 2 (their birthdays are 2 years and 1 day apart). The first month was a doozy. H was very used to being the baby, the attention getter. Then she had to share mom and dad and toys and..... you see where this is going. I think we're in a good place right now, but I don't know how H will take it if we're not able to adopt N. EVen though it's a pre-adopt placement, and I try to remind H of that, at her age these concepts are difficult to comprehend.
You have to decide what's right for you, for our family I'm still unsure if this was right for us, we'll have to see where things go. TPR is Jan. but I"m not holding my breath.
That being said, if we lose N, I don't think I want to bring another one in the house while H is so young.
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