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bethy724,
Thanks again for the validation. I know that my bmom was an amazing woman -- she was already a loving mom/widow with 2 kids so she was more mature at my birth. But it grieves me to think that she struggled so much with her decision and tried so hard to convince my bdad to marry her. It's all so sad, and I can't imagine what those visits must have been like for both of us.
It's good to hear from a foster/adoptive mom, and it's great you're on this forum to share ideas. Keep up with good work with those foster kids.
At least now I no longer believe I was neglected in my foster home (the agency placed all newborns in foster care for the first 9 months). If I was unhappy, it was probably because I was missing my bmom. I'm sure those maternal visits didn't make it any easier for my foster mom. I think I'm gaining a new appreciation for you foster parents.
escottswanson,
I like your story. I do believe there is a psychic bond between bmom and child. I also believe that events that seem like coincidences are coincidental at all.
I remember very well the evening when I found the Internet posting looking for me. I was sitting at the computer doing not much of anything when a thought entered my mind out of the blue to google my birthdate and city of birth. I later learned that the date was two days before my bmom's birthday, and two days later, on her birthday, was when I first learned about her and that she died way before her time.
I am also touched that my aparents live only a mile from my bmom's grave. My aparents raised me in a different county, but moved to their current house 30 years ago. So many times I had driven by that cemetery and had no idea. I like to think that she is watching over them as well as me.
This is probably pretty farfetched, but my heart skipped a beat when I read that my bmom's name means "pearl". As an adult, I have always worn a pearl pendant as my main piece of jewelry. I would like to think that I have been keeping her close to my heart.
Maybe I read too many "New Age" books, but I do find significance in small events. I think we all get messages from our loved ones in spirit.
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