[kakuehl]

Another bmom here, I too felt that while I was open to reunion, it was his call. I wrote him a letter, which he never got (the agency his parents used was closed). Especially after I got a computer, I would occasional tentative attempts to locate him. I finally decided to really look about 3 years ago, after the son I raised commented that people were asking him if he was related to Johnny Knoxville. (I checked him out... not a match, LOL) When I registered on here I found that he had already registered so I had a name and I knew that he was open to being found. (By the way, each of us spend years thinking the other one should search!) For us, this turned out to be the "right" time to connect because of where D is in his life journey. He has told me that had he been 18 or even 25 when we connected, it would not have gone as well.

My recommendation to you would be to write him and let him know that you would like to reconnect with him, but that it's up to him, and that you will make sure he can always find you.