[bethy724]

As unpleasant as my sons 1st 3 months were I accept that there is a love/bond that is undeniable. His bio mom didn't protect him or his brother (from a boyfriend) but she cried after every visit & the last visit was painful for everybody.

SoniaRose - your bio mom was an AMAZING woman to visit you - it is PAINFUL for any bio parent to visit - you are one in a million to have had visits & go thru adoption (unless you were taken by CPS - even than bio's don't show up because it is to painful to visit) I'm confident every bio mom (especially those that love their children so much to give them up -not have them taken away) LOVES their child/WANTS their child & cries often when they think about their baby - even when abuse/neglect occours - I'll never know the bond between bio mom/child but I have an amazing bond w/ my son that I can't put into words.

I'm able to volunteer & provide respite care onthe weekends to foster children (mostly babies) because I can recegonize that these children come from unbelievable situations but their bio's did something right - they made these beautiful children& God made them. Hope I didn't go off the post a bit w/ foster children - but it is a fact that I see w/ my own eyes-there is a biological bond at every age-no matter the circumstance of mom/child being seperated.