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Old 11-16-2008, 05:11 PM
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So sorry you are going through this again. I urge you not to rush to make a decision to go with any particular agency too early. I adopted a child through an agency that I thought was good. They encouraged me to lie to the bmom, and said OA's are not legally binding in our state and to just tell the bmom what she wants to hear, that we could do whatever we wanted to do after TPR.

We were 90% through the placement process when these things were said and had already fallen in love with the baby. These things were said to us when the bmom wanted to change the agreement after placement. Which we were fine with. It made me mad, we did adopt the baby but did not tell the bmom anything that we were not willing to follow through with.

Just remember not all agencies are there to help, some are there to make a buck. Take your time, don't let anyone rush you into making a decision you are not 100% sure of.

I hope that all goes well for you and your family.
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