[qs mom]

No services because of mainstreaming is just about the most stupid comment I have every heard.

My son has been mainstreamed since 1st grade. In 1st he had OT 3x, SLP 2x, PT 2x and councelling 2x. The same thing ind 2nd. After Easter in 2nd SLP was eliminated. He is now in 3rd and has OT 2x and counceling 2x weekly.

He had a seat cushion and a vest in K, 1st. His 1st grade teacher took them away. 3rd grade teacher realizes he needs the cushion.

He also has verbal AND written instuction. He has 1 1/2 times the length of time to complete his testing and assignments. He is not to be given more than a 2 step direction.

I've made it clear to his teachers that I'm a big proponent of LIFE. There is more to LIFE than school. There's dance, scouts, skating, movie nights, Church and most importantly doing FUN KID THINGS. I've made it clear that I will NOT force homework on my child. However, if he chooses not to do it, I will consequence him and I expect her to also.

At first they weren't sure how to take me when I said "we'll do the best we can about homework, but it isn't my top priority even though it is the first task to be done".

And yes, it's only 3rd grade, so there isn't a lot right now, but I don't want my son to miss being a kid because he's so focused on homework that nothing else matters.

He WILL NOT quit or miss dance class, Boy Scouts, Awana, or ice skating for homework. He WILL NOT miss a special family thing for homework. LOved ones don't live forever, so we'll spend time there than doing homework. As an example - my cousin and his wife are both in the Air Force. They have 3 boys, one is my son's age. They were here for a few weeks in October. Seeing Jay & Amanda, playing with Brandon, Nolan and Gavin was certainly much more important than doing a math page. He'll learn the math without doing that page and Jay & Amanda have both been to Iraq several times, we pay they will be fine, but you never know. And if we do get to see them again, it won't be for at least a year.

Maybe this is a bad example for Q, but I'll have to wait and see when he's older.

Somethings that DO NOT take precedant over homework - video games, TV, computer time, playtime, snacks.