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When M was younger (a baby) I definitly told people more. I think because when they are babies - it actually comes up! Other mom's will ask rather personal questions about labor/delivery yada yada yada. And not to mention, anyone who KNOWS you already knows you weren't pregnant last week when they saw you!!
Now I only tell people when it comes up. For instance a good friend of mine (we've met through preschool) was over and commented on how M looks like a combo of Dh and myself. I just said really? He's adopted - that's funny!
So I don't lie - but I don't feel "the need" to tell.
Your friend very well might assume your first child is adopted as well if she sees you going through the process. I wouldn't worry about it.
It's not about "hiding" it's just not something that needs to be announced all the time, ya know?
I think once you are done with adding to your family - the amount you tell people will decrease.
I certainly don't bring it up to any of M's new friends parents - but I'm sure we'll get questions when we bring home our second child - and that's fine. I don't feel guilty about not telling, if they asked I would be honest.
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Leigh
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