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For me it's been a process. I found that for a long time I felt this responsibility to tell every single person we met. Then I started feeling icky doing that, kind of desperate like I needed other people's approval which fed into my whole entitlement issue about being a mom.
So for my own "sanity" (for lack of a better word) I always ask myself in a given situation WHY I'm talking about it. If the answer comes back "to get this person's approval" i don't mention it the and there.
If the answer is that it makes sense in the context of a given situation or I really feel it would be relevant to a given relationship, I tell.
I think for me in a relationship with a friend who helped me through something as personal as a subsequent adoption, I'd feel it was relevant. However I fully support our right to share or withhold info at our own discretion. I'm all for boundaries!
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“Sometimes the strength of motherhood is greater than natural laws.” - Barbara Kingsolver
"If you have love, you don't need to have anything else, and if you don't have it, it doesn't matter much what else you have." - Sir James M. Barrie
"Nothing's gonna change my world." - John Lennon
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