[Rubi]

How freely do you tell people that your children has been adopted? Like, when you make a new friend? Because in the beginning of the friendship/relationship you don't know how it's going to turn out, so later the other person just asume that your child is your bio child. I feel very guilty towards my one friend, because she saw us going through our second adoption, but still don't know that my oldest son is also adopted....I just never had that feeling that this is now the time to tell her, because then I need to explain why I didn't tell her from the start, exct....And in the meanwhile I also made new friends....I mean, it's not as if you just one day say, 'listen, my son A has been adopted'? What difference does it really make to our friendship anyway.....But now some older friends does know he was adopted and I wonder how the new friends will feel if they hear that I haven't been totaly honest? And also....I didn't mention his adoption to his new school principal or teacher, because I often see that people do lable adopted children, like when they develope the slightest learning /behavior problem then IT MUST BE BECAUSE HE WAS ADOPTED! I want them to get to know him for who he is first....Do't get me wrong....We are open about the adoption in our home and family, but I do worry that maybe because of people not knowing, my son might be put in difficult situations....