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Here's a link to Gavin DeBecker's answer to this issue:

https://www.gavindebecker.com/familyQA/36.cfm
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And since this thread seems to be touching on two distint topics . . . I'm really surprised at the lack of respect I've personally seen given to fathers. One example - my youngest was in the hospital for a few days and I stayed there with him. One of the "nurses" and I got to talking briefly about my other kids and she asked who was taking care of them. I told her DH. She then asked me who was helping him. Huh? I kind of shook my head in confusion and said nobody. She seriously looked at me like I was from another planet. She asked if I thought he was ok on his own with them. Huh???? I think I just stared back at her with my confused look. I mean she really was an actual nurse. She had to have had some sort of formal education. Surely she's met competent men in her life??? It was so bizarre. And I was so unprepared for it (stressed and tired and all that).