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Hadley- thank you for the advice. I believe it was actually your post on my first thread that opened my eye's to the "custody" issue.
My BIL called us today (the babies father). This is only the second time we've spoke to him since this happened. The first time he called to let us know that he and his GF (the babies mom) were told by CPS we offered to take the baby into foster care. He called to tell us he was grateful for that and that he understood we'd be following the rules strictly in regards to information, phone calls, visiting, ect...... At that time he also told us that CPS asked him and his GF if they had a "plan" for the baby. They both agreed they'd like to see him placed w/ us. That is what he told us, and the CW confirmed that.
Anyhow, he called tonight and said he had a 1-on-1 meeting w/ CPS today. He said they mentioned his baby was not placed w/ us yet. He seriously did not know as he has not been granted visitation yet and we have not spoke to him. Another long story about the maternal grandparents putting a restraining order on him for the baby (which I didn't even realize they could do since both mom and dad have been indicated in this case and both lost custody of the child to the state). Anyhow, he reiterated what the CW told me today-- that the CW told BIL today it would just be "so much better and it would go so much faster if we'd just file for custody".
Personally, I think that is incorrect too. I cannot see how it would be faster. I would think that retaining a lawyer and then waiting for a court date would be a much longer length of time.
I've been trying to be nice w/ the CW's, because ultimately I'm dependant on them to place my nephew here. I think I've been afraid to make them mad.
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