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jturbocarter
I get the impression that it's not the actual words that you are missing for your letter..... more like you are still wavering on whether you want to step into the emotional whirlpool.
Can I suggest you do really know what you want? But like everyone you cannot be sure what you will get. That's the really scary part. BUT if you never put yourself out there and give it your best try, you will remain in the undecided place you are now.

If you decide to write, it doesn't need to be a book. Maybe a card with the questions asked (are you my birthmother?) and a contact address where she can contact you. If you want to add more, tell her a little about your life, who you the grown-up is, and what you would like (eg. if possible to be part of your life / meet you in the future / have knowledge of where you came from /etc etc. If you google birthmother letter you will come up with various senarios.


I like peachy's advise about drafts - the more you try the easier it gets. And reading adoption reunion material. Knowledge is good. I'd add a positive attitude. To me that would be the No 1 tool for a successful reunion. I think you are a guy ??? so maybe this is harder for you. Maybe PM some of the rare guys who post on the forums and ask their advice.

Good luck whatever you do.
Ann