[melissa_bear003]

Originally Posted by Fran27

And there are still a lot of men who really don't know as much than their wives when it comes to child care (I made a poll about it on another forum, and 90% of the husbands didn't even know what size clothes or diapers their babies wear).

So yes, it's often a generalization, but sadly there is still a lot of truth in there.

My question to that is, WHY? I've seen it happen, time and again..."Oh, here Dear, this is the way you do it..." and Mom takes over. Mom treats Dad as if he doesn't know, shouldn't know...he's just the Dad.

I don't know if my dh is the Dad he is because of who he is,or because I insisted on it...or a combo. When we had our first bio child together, he tried the, "You're better at it than I am..." only to be handed a diaper and told that practice makes perfect. I always assumed, and made sure that he knew, that he was as capable a parent as I am, period. There was none of the 'I'm the Mom, I know better' anywhere...and woe betide the person that ever asks either of us if dh is 'babysitting'. He's parenting. He no more babysits our children than I do.

I wonder how much the societal attitude of Moms being 'better parents' than Dads has to do with the stats in responsiveness. Dads are told that they're 2nd best, that a Mom is more equipped.

And if someone identified skin colour, eye colour, hair colour and said that people with those traits were more likely to be predators, we'd all have a fit. So why is it ok to basically apply the 'predator' label to any and all unknown men, assume men are dangerous, and women are safe?