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Old 11-14-2008, 03:36 AM
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Originally Posted by cantbuymeluv
.like now I don't get overnights because after my first overnight the fp claimed my nephew was acting out, blah blah blah. OK he may have...........

That happened to us too. Our visits were supervised by either the CASA worker (what a great lady she was!) or the SW herself. And our niece would hug us and ask us not to leave her after each visit then would go home and act out and the FP would tell the SW this. They were saying it was too "traumatic" for her to move to our home because of that. Even the counselor (whom we NEVER met nor spoke to over the phone) wrote up a 2 page letter to CPS on how "traumatizing" the move would be blah blah blah....So we kept fighting because we knew she was very comfortable with us and we loved her and she loved us. It was very confusing to her at that time and for a 7 yr old to understand, well that is hard to explain.

We opted for a 2 week transition to our home (we had to travel to Idaho to transition and rented a 3 bdr townhouse near the FP's) instead of just taking her immediately and we also opted to not bring her here til that summer so she could finish school. The 1st overnight visit went so well she asked us at breakfast the next morning if she could stay another one and then it just kept on going where she only left a few hours that week to visit with the FP's. The FP's even called us asking us "When is she coming back to see us?" It went so well with the transition that we even were amazed. Kids are very resiliant. She fit right in when we got back here and we haven't had any major issues! Don't take the acting out as a sign you are not the best thing for your nephew. Kids act out when they can't verbalize their feelings. If he has a counselor I would let them know what is going on so he can verbalize his feelings or (like our niece) have a play therapy session.
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