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This may not be what you are looking for as an answer but here I go. This is actually a question that hits home for me. I am the birth father to several children and a strong supporter of fathers rights.
Let me explain a little about my situation. Me and my wife have three children together, two of which WE placed in an open adoption. I am also the birth father to a child I had out of wedlock with another woman when I was much younger. Me and the young lady which I had a child out of wedlock with obviously did not work out. She did not place our child in adoption but yet left without notice with my daughter. To my horror I was to find out I had no rights as a father, that yes I had partial custody but without her current address I could not even get a court order to see my daughter. I just find it very unfair to believe that a birth father has to pay child support (not arguing with child support) if requested but has no say so in there child's life. Things now have worked out with my daughter so far in that her mother has decided to contact me but yet I feel like I have to jump through hoops or face the possibility of never seeing my daughter.
As far as the 2 children me and my wife have placed in adoption, I was able to make the decision with my wife.
I feel I must also add the reasons for placing them for adoption. Our first child is autistic which honestly played a role in deciding about both adoptions. For the first adoption the big reason was fear of sever postpartum which my wife had with our first child to the extent she had to be hospitalized. With the second child was due to my current medical condition (advanced Black Lung) which required way to much care for me that we would not be able to care for a newborn.
Ok I really ran my mouth too much here but I hope this was helpfull.
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