Just before hubby and I got married I was diagnosed with lupus and a blood clotting disorder that sometimes shows up in lupus patients. We were not interested in starting a family for a few years so...5 years later we saw a doctor who specialized in lupus and pregnancy. He felt that with proper care and monitoring I could have a successful pregnancy but I would have to be on high doses of blood thinners throughout the nine months and that I would have a higher chance of miscarriage and STROKE!! There was the lightbulb moment....STROKE, no thanks!! Having my own biological child was just honestly not, and really never was, that important me. My husband felt the same way...I remember him telling me that he didn't care how we became parents. We began the adoption process a few years later...why did wait? We were truly just scared of the whole process.. It seemed so daunting!!
I think I always wanted or was meant to adopt, when I was little I vividly remember sitting with my best friend on my parent's porch and telling her I would like to adopt children one day.
Well, after waiting 2 years with our agency and dealing with a heartbreaking failed match in August 2006, hubby and I were pretty much done and were going to take a break from all things adoption. Two weeks into our "break" in September 2006 we got the call that a young couple liked our portfolio and wanted to meet us. Two months later our daughter Emma Kate was born at 9:35 pm on Thanksgiving Eve and weighed in at 7 lbs 13 ozs.. We have a semi-open adoption. They have chosen not to have visits, but we send pictures and letters every 4 months.
Fast forward 17 months later to June 2006...our phone rings at 2:45 in the morning. When you get a call at that hour you definitely suspect the worst so I was totally surprised to see that it was our DD's birthfather calling. Anyway he was calling to tell us that he and our DD's birthmom just had another baby girl and he wanted the phone number for the adoption agency we had used with DD. I gave him the number, asked if they needed anything and said I would call tomorrow to see how everyone was.
DH and I were in shock. We had no idea they expecting again, we didn't even think they were together anymore. It looked they were planning adoption for this baby and we wondered if they would ask us to take the new baby. So that it was it for sleep yesterday,...way too much going on in our heads for sleeping.
Well, at 7:30 AM our SW from DD's adoption calls and to tell us that our birthparents want us to adopt the baby so the sisters can be together!! OMG!!!! A full biological sibling to our daughter...of course, we said YES!! Sara Anne was born June 10, 2008 and came home 5 days later.
So here we are 6 months later and I am honestly still amazed and shocked that we have another baby, let alone biological siblings. We just found out today that we will finalize on December 18th.
Life is AMAZING!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Adoption is AMAZING!!!
