[SoniaRose]

I am a 55 year old adoptee, and I just found out that my bmom visited with me as an infant on several occasions before she signed the relinquishment papers. I am now curious if anyone has thoughts about whether or not we "bonded" during those visits?

I recently received my non-id papers from the adoption agency. I already knew a lot about my bparents (both deceased), but I requested my papers to gain some new insights. I already knew that my bmom wanted to keep me very badly, but my bdad did not want to get married.

I was very surprised to learn that my bmom visited me several times in the first 8 months. I previously had assumed that she never saw me again after I was taken from the hospital and placed in foster care. So now I wonder if I recognized her as my mother during those visits?

I was placed with my aparents at 9 months. My amom has told me that I was not a warm and friendly baby. I had suspected that perhaps my foster mom didn't hold me or give me much attention. The fact that my bmom visited me and struggled with the relinquishment throws everything in a new light for me.

Was I an unhappy baby because I was confused and missing my bmom? I can't imagine what I might have been thinking or feeling.