[crick]

I remember when I started going by Crick and while it was a family nickname, my mom didn't intend for that to be a nickname outside of the family. I wanted my letter jacket to say Crick instead of my name and she was not happy about that. She let me know why and her opinions on it, but in the end, it was my decision.

I think as a parent, one of our transitions is from "all control" to "less control" and choosing the battles to fight on that element. Our kids are going to make decisions we do not like and yet if we don't allow them to make their choices, how are they going to learn to do it and learn to make the right ones for themselves?

Twinki is not spelled right because that's the way things are when you are a teen. Remember how we spelled "2cute4u"? and other things like that? It's not "cute" to us adults but it's not supposed to be. lol!

I do understand where you are coming from on not wanting her to be less than she is or stay with a friend who really isn't a friend etc. But again...these really are things kids learn on their own. We can talk to them about it and we can point things out, give examples of our mistakes etc., but in the end, it's got to be her choice. My take is that eventually things have a way of happening where kids do realize "You know...she really isn't my friend after all".

If you don't want to pay for the shirt with this nickname, that is your right too. Maybe tell her if she wants the shirt with the nickname, then she will need to pay for it?