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I am 44 year old adoptee that has always known that he was adopted. I can't address the feelings of betrayal that you are feeling but I can certainly understand how strong they must be.
It seems that a lot the adoptive parents of children from the generation where you I come from were very protective of their adopted children. I think that if my mom could have gotten away with never telling me that I was adopted, she would have tried. My adoption was just something that I was supposed to accept and never question and a search for my birth mother was totally taboo.
Although you have every right to be angry, it will pass and the sooner the better. I've learned to let things go even though it is very hard because if I don't I am only hurting myself in the long run.
I would certainly talk to your dad about what you found. It may be a relief to him that you know. Living with as large of a lie as that does take its toll. Don't make it a big deal as things tend to get out of control if too much of an element of drama comes into play. I'd say something like "Dad, I will always love you but I know now that I was adopted and I'd like to talk about it sometime." Then go find something else to do for a while. Let the waters calm down a bit. You are hurting and very angry, but he is one person that can answer a lot of your questions.
I would also tell your husband. You will get the "They've been your parents... " line from someone some day. I think that all adoptees get that one. Even my wife who has come to learn how sensitive the nature of my adoption is has pointed that out in a nice way.
But now there is an unknown out there for you. Only when you get things out in the open on the home front and know where everyone stands will you be able to evaluate what to do next.
There are many people here for you.
Best wishes.
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