wow...sounds like you are respiting my daughter from a few years back. everything you are saying was my 24/7. things are so much better now, so there is hope for her. but all i have to say is on behalf of the people parenting the child you are helping, THANK YOU. there were days that i didn't like my daughter very much either, and i had to call people and ask them to come pick her up for a few hours. i never cared what they did with her, i didn't care if they took her on a shopping spree and out for a sundae even though she had just been super awful, because the 2 or so hours by myself was desperately needed to maintain my own sanity. i don't know that i could have continued to parent her without support. i think i would have given up, and given her back...and she would have never had a chance to heal as much as she has. what you are doing, may very well be preserving her placement, which may very well be giving her a chance at a more normal future. it is hard....and sometimes...or lots of times, you may not like it, but please know that what you are doing is a fabulous service to more than one person. good for you.
