Hello im sorry to hear what you are going threw, im a bmother so i can not relate just want to send some love and support, talk to them you need the closer and as for your son im sorry i have friend who has autisum its hard but it will be ok. INMO i think your husband loves you rocky or not its been 15 years you have already had the ups and downs in life this is just another obstical in life you two will battle together, dont stress as much on how your father and husband will react take care of you and your needs its ok to.
good luck i wish you the best