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I'm preparing for that day sometime in the future. DH and I are really "older" adoptive parents waiting, not so patiently any longer, for our referral. I will be 53 on Friday.....YIKES! When someone approaches me and asks that question, I always thought that I would say "Why yes, she is the grandest baby I have"....or "I try to be the grandest mother for my child".
Things are really getting depressing with our wait...and....My parents had my mother's side of the family all over for a gathering recently. My parents are elderly, as are all of my aunts and uncles. I was talking to my mother today on the phone and she said everybody wanted to know "what was wrong with her (me) that she thinks she can do this now.......doesn't she know she is too old"? Well....I know that my relatives are "old" themselves and are from the old school where you have your babies when you are in your early 20's. I guess I should of asked my mother what they would say if I was physically pregnant..... they probably would have said I am still too old, but I bet the comments would have been different.
It is just really hard to know that most of my family really don't believe in our adoption plans, nor are they at all supportive of our dreams. It kinda makes it hard to keep a smile on my face when I continue to hear the negative comments.....continuousl y....not just from stangers.
It's just nice to know that we are not alone and there are others in this wonderful supportive community who understand.
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