[melissa_bear003]

While I applaud you for being concerned with the parented sibs, I'd like to point out that your concerns are actually for their parents to deal with...Not your responsibility to take on, in other words. If at all possible, try and let that go. You have no control over how the parents are/have chosen to explain or deal with the situation to their parented kids, so try and absolve yourself from that. Easier said than done, I'm sure.

As to the more openness...stick with what you've got for now. Since bmom hasn't followed through on her end of things, I'd wait and see. You don't want to get into a one sided relationship where she receives all the open, and you receive nothing, because that will only cause resentment and hurt in the relationship, and eventually a complete breakdown. If she starts carrying her end of the relationship, then may be the time to consider and discuss more openness.

I wish you all the best, and hope the finalization comes without any drama