[birthmom25]

My goodness, I had to reply after I read your post and saw the responses. Some were sympathetic, I guess, but not really...
I'm a birth mother of a beautiful baby girl who I placed for adoption this year. I was raped but that had nothing at all to do with my decision, i would of LOVED to keep her regardless.
Your dilema struck a chord with me because in a lot of ways, I feel like I will be in your shoes (or similar, unable to conceive) later in my life too. I imagine it will be ten years from now, and I will desperately want to have a child with my (future) husband, and not be able to.
I think you should keep up with the fertility concept and pray. Be specific, He will answer. God is the only reliable thing I have in life and I couldn't live a day now, after placing my daughter, without him.
I would then slap your husband across the face. Sorry, don't mean to be too rude, but I would! I'm angry at him for you! It's like he just said to you, his wife, that he disagrees with, well who YOU are. I mean everything you "stand for" or have done in your life is "adoption" and giving in love and receiving in love is something you were always open to. How can he say that? Did he lie when he told you earlier in life that he understood your decision to place your child (I'm assuming he agrees with you at one point) You took in his kids. Now you ask him for compromise, and he says that to you.
Maybe I am biased, and do I admit this would be one of my big fears coming true if it happened to me, but my only real advice is pray about it. I'll pray be praying for you too! Stick out the fight with him!

And as for the daughter, Id say, if she is any bit logical about it she will choose adoption. I hope she chooses it herself, because then she has no one to blame later. I just remember teenagers won't do anything a mom and dad tell them they would choose to do, if they pick it before hand. Never proclaim any one solution to be the best, and nudge her to the appropriate side. nudging is ok....cause if you don't somebody will. Just be supportive and again pray. If you told her your heart about the situation she is in and how you felt with your baby.

Yeah, I got from this post the sense of betrayal from your husband. Yet everyone else seemed to think it was about your daughter's decision. So maybe I'm totally off. I feel like you were concerned about both, equally. Maybe your husband's response to the situation just irrated me more! Good luck and God Blees you! I think you have a great position to comment on adoption! I'm proud of you too for all you have done! Thanks, B
You can tell him, I said, to take a flying leap...

The Story of A Girl - adoption from a birth mother’s perspective

"I will tell you something beautiful. We are fighting abortion by adoption - by care of the mother and adoption for her baby. We have saved thousands of lives" Mothera Teresa