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One of the most difficult things about open adoption is that you can't control what the other party does. They are going to do what they are going to do and you will do what you will do, all in the best interests of your respective children. You might not always agree on those things, but that is just life.
As for the pictures. It took me a long time to get pictures together for my son, four years in fact. I really didn't feel like I was worth enough for him to need them. It is still early in your adoption and their emotions are still raw. You've asked for pictures, give them some time.
I think one of the things we can all agree is that no matter how much you talk about how things will feel after placing a child for adoption/having a child placed with you for adoption, there is no way to tell how you will feel afterward. For first parents there is alot of grief to process on the backend while you're experiencing joy. I'm not saying that to be a Debbie Downer, just saying that sometimes things that seem like they should be no big deal, feel like the HUGEST deal ever.
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First mom to the amazing Kiddo and adopted adult.
1-4-2009 Mom and I visit Kiddo despite the bad weather. He really loved the blue mittens I made him and even helped me plan my living room. Apparently Hot Wheels wallpapper is the way to go.
2-16-2009 I got a promotion, that comes with a raise. Mom and Dad are visiting and we're going to Al's for pie to celebrate.
4-27-2009 Dad surprises me with a Lady Ugly Stick (an awesome fishing rod that is pink) and a 2nd Iowa Light Artillery Battery jacket. I'm a lucky girl!
5-30-2009 Kiddo turns five. It is hard to believe he is that old already, it seems like just yesterday he was being born. I was at peace for the first time on his birthday, what a nice feeling.
6-13&14 2009 A cannon live fire in Casper WY. We got third place and I got to see Devil's Tower for the first time, it was pretty awesome.
7-4-2009 Amelia the kitten comes to live with me and Liz. Talk about jealousy, Liz will adjust though.
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