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Maybe the difference to your dh is that planning on an infant wasn't something he wanted to do, but now that there is one, he feels compelled to step up to the plate?
I'm not sure if I'm explaining this quite right, so I'll use dh and I as an example. We intend to adopt via CPS. Likely a boy of First Nations heritage (this simply because boys tend to be harder to find homes for than girls, and even more so for FN children, and dh shares that heritage). Anyways, our age group preferably be 3-5, perhaps as low as 18 mths (maybe!) or as high as 6. We don't plan on any more bio kids.
That being said, although we have no desire to adopt or give birth to another infant, if the situation arose either my getting pregnant or a family member with an infant, we'd welcome the baby with open arms, even though its definately not something we'd deliberately do.
Hopefully, that makes some sort of sense.
I agree that counselling would be a huge benefit to everyone involved, and I truly hope that you're all able to manage this and come through stronger on the other side.
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Proud homeschooling Momma 
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