[melissa_bear003]

Originally Posted by zxczxcasdasd

Tell your DH it's time for him to "man-up" and as the protector of this family (which includes you) he shouldn't tolerate hurtful or dangerous behavior toward any member of his family, especially one he's chosen to be his intimate life partner and mother to his children. Tell him you are feeling abandoned and you need him to be your hero and stand between you and the charging animal- not watch you get bitten and tell you not to complain.

Sorry to be harsh, but I have no patience for men who refuse to stand up for their wife and kids because they don't want to face the consequences of what might happen if they do. Nothing should matter more than protecting your wife and children. Nothing.

I agree with you, but there's also something to be said about learned behaviours and coping skills.

My MIL's family all take a tolerant, "Let it go, or she'll throw a fit." approach. They either indulge her demands (I don't know of anyone else that can call and announce that their plane is arriving on X day, they'll be staying for x# of weeks, and oh btw, staying with YOU.)

Dh learned to do the same. Comply (or appear to) ignore, and wait for her to move on to something else.

I'm not the type to let bad behaviour be rewarded so that was an adjustment.