[mommy3]

A concept I wanted to add is that when our children are adopted, that's a one-time event, so I always always use the phrase, "you WERE adopted" not "are adopted" -- It's my contention that this difference in wording isn't just about being PC, but about sharing that our children are our children, period. Their adoption experience happened only once, even when their stories are different and special. Funny, but my son's friend was bummed when they were little because he "didn't have a birthmother like D!" -- then we explained that his birthmom and mom were just the same person. He still didn't like it -- he wanted 2 people to love him as mothers, like my son had. Loved it. susan